Reply To: Can anyone understand what it is she wants or what she is up

I can’t follow what happened or tell who cheated on who. I have been cheated on by a couple of ex-boyfriends and those breakups really sucked because for me, they left me feeling like the rug had been swept out from under me. The endings were untidy, I felt like I didn’t get closure. What I learned from those experiences — both of which did entail a little bit of back and forth between myself and my exes after all was said and done — is that closure is something you give yourself. Blocking people who hurt you isn’t petty, it’s something you do for your own sake. It doesn’t sound like she’s reaching out excessively (and assuming the second half of your post is her email, I cannot understand it), but you can still block her on email, social media, phone number — literally anywhere you think she may contact you — to ensure you do not hear from her again.

So if you’re the one who cheated, take the time to self reflect. What’s going on with you on the inside that you chose that? You’ll want to deal with whatever those inner demons are before your next relationship to be a better partner.

If you’re the one who was cheated on, I’m sorry. I know how much it hurts and how much it can fuck you with you. Get yourself into therapy if you need to (it really helps!) and start moving forward. Revisiting what happened will not help no matter how many times you do so, trust me. Eventually it won’t hurt so much.