@hfantods Are you guys in the same field? The ex I mentioned, we had one overlapping major in college and then went into the same post-grad program. We had similar interests, strengths, and career goals. I never thought I was smarter, but I thought (and still think) I had more drive. Had we not been so similar in so many ways, I don’t know that he would’ve gotten competitive. I was probably comparing us at the time, too. Since then, I’ve not really felt a need to compare myself to anyone I’ve dated. I think the most I felt in dating was a little embarrassed of my lower salary in my mid-20s, but I never actually shared a dollar amount with anyone until my now-bf.