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February 7, 2023 at 9:38 pm #1118643

@Copa that is going to be me exactly except my dad had an affair for 4 years with one of his (middle aged, female) grad students (he was a professor) and my mom discovered it randomly one day in October 2021. LORD ABOVE it’s been a rollercoaster. My dad will not leave their house because he refuses to pay for another place to live since “he owns half the house” (he lives in their finished apartment downstairs except when he needs something from the upstairs) and my mother gets panic attacks at being around him so she’s been staying between mine and my sister’s houses for the past year (NC and MA, their house is in PA). They’re going through the process of divorce but it’s such a legal mess that I’m not sure she’ll even do it at this point, she goes back and forth. We tried Christmas with them together in 2021 (when my dad was pretending he had given up the other woman – spoiler alert, he hadn’t) and it was awful, with my mom randomly crying all the time and them taking long walks and fighting. They were back and forth for a year and now their relationship is over. My parents were seemingly contentedly (I wouldn’t necessarily say “happily,” but like, in a partnership enough?) married for all of our childhoods. My sister and I are 32 and 40. It’s a nightmare. I never saw this happening at this age…so it just goes to show, you never know.

Wow I’m such a ray of sunshine today, lol.