Reply To: Dating a boyfriend with Muslim parents

You need to be louder in your relationship. Ask him why you can’t come over. Tell him how this makes you feel. Be honest with him if you want him to be honest with you. You’ve almost been together for half a decade. Think about that. You’ve invested four years into this and he’s barely introduced you to his mother, because as much as he tells you she likes you, you know that your religious background prevents her from fully accepting you.

There’s the possibility that his house is in such a state of disrepair that he is too embarrassed to invite you over. The other people they have over may be family or close friends of the family who know their poverty? I don’t think his is it, but it could be.

At the end of the day, you’ve been with someone for four years and you’re unhappy and there seems to be no end in sight. You make the choices that shape your life. If this boyfriend you love cannot add you into his life fully, you can choose you want more and move on.