I’m sorry the holidays were hard for you @TheLadyE. I hope you guys find a new normal that works for everyone in the coming years.
@Rangerchic My mom went to therapy a handful of years ago but it was short-lived. She’ll literally bring up old grievances between her and my dad that happened like 15 years ago. Like you, I’ve told her I will not be a sounding board. My sister and I both live in the same city now. There is distance between us and my parents but my sister’s approach is different than mine. Her take is that she knows they’ll never change so she’ll tolerate it to spend time with them. I’m done tolerating it.