Reply To: Crush(24M) lying to me about previous relationship?

I have to tell you, this does not read like well-adjusted adults interacting. I would think I was reading about tweens who’ve never been let out of the house if you hadn’t provided ages.

It looks to me like this guy isn’t interested in you romantically and doesn’t want others knowing you hung out alone, most likely because he is romantically interested in the other gal he said had been texting him.

As to your original question, it’s actually not clear to me that he’s lying. He seems kind of pathologically secretive, so maybe he did have some kind of something with somebody and your friend group didn’t know about it. That aside, people lie and say they have romantic or sexual experience because they are embarrassed and don’t want to look like a weirdo.

You need to move on from this guy. You hadn’t seen him in years and couldn’t sustain a conversation for an hour. There’s nothing there.

And consider working with a coach or therapist about how to establish and sustain human connections. The last 3 years have been rough.