Reply To: Ending an engagement

Been there. I was engaged to a pretty perfect guy. I loved him. I loved his family. We got along great. He proposed. I said yes. Then I realized I made a huge mistake and kind of went off the rails. I had an emotional affair that probably started before he proposed. I started seeing a therapist and I postponed the wedding. I finally realized I couldn’t do it and finally, a week before my cousin’s wedding for which we needed to travel for, I called it off. We were eating dinner and I told him I couldn’t do it. This was 15 years ago, so I don’t remember exactly what I said. I did hand him my beautiful ring back.

I moved out and in with a friend.

I’d say rip the bandaid and do it. You actually don’t need to tell him about the cheating if you don’t want to. I didn’t. He probably knew, but we never discussed it. Just tell him what feels right.

I’m now married to another great guy. I love him so much, and vice versa. Everything has always been pretty easy and natural and we have mutual respect, friendship and chemistry. I feel like I hit the jackpot.