Reply To: Ending an engagement

I agree with the “don’t tell about the cheating” sentiment, with the caveat that if there’s a real risk of him having been exposed to STDs, then you need to tell him.

If you don’t think that’s likely, rip the band-aid off quickly and permanently if you don’t want to be with him.

I will add: On the odd chance you love him and want to be with him, but are punishing yourself for cheating on him, there’s potential to move on from this with enough honesty. But this doesn’t seem to be the case here.