Reply To: I feel insecure about my boyfriend’s friend

They sound like friends, and the thing about pretending to be her bf at a club is something I could see a guy doing even for a woman he doesn’t know, to help her out if she needs to get away from an aggressive dude.

Screen sharing her profile and going through her pics and outfits sounds weird to me without any other context, like why would anyone do that? I don’t get it. My husband will show me people’s Facebook posts sometimes if they’re acting wild, but he’s never scrolled through a friend’s profile to show me their outfits and stuff.

But what’s kind of standing out for me is that you say your boyfriend is nice to you and tells you he loves you… like, to me that doesn’t read like you two have something really special, a true connection. Do you know what I mean? And he’s moved to a new city… is there a plan for him to move back eventually or for you to move there? How long have you been together? Maybe this relationship isn’t serving your needs.