Reply To: I feel insecure about my boyfriend’s friend

“She even sent him red roses on rose day for the valentine’s week. He once video called me and screenshared her profile to me, going through her pictures, commenting on her outfits.”

These are the details that strike me as odd. The rest is all stuff that friends do together/for one another. It’s hard and scary to move to a new city alone, so it’s really not surprising that both want and need a pal… and I’m sure there’s some relief in the familiarity of someone you went to school with.

You’re allowed to feel whatever it is you’re feeling about the situation. What you shouldn’t do is act on your every feeling. Have you talked to your boyfriend about how you feel? What did he say?

Kate’s points about your longer-term plan are also very valid. In my experience, most people don’t end up with their college SO. Very few of my friends did. How are you filling your time with the distance? Are you still in college? Having fun nights out of your own? I hope whatever stage of life you are in, you are still focusing on yourself — your goals, hobbies, friends.