Reply To: “It’s Been Three Years and I Still Haven’t Met His Kids”

Yep, I agree with everything Miss MJ said. To be frank, you’re lucky his kids don’t actively hate you – or, at least, it’s not communicated to you that they hate you – after their father left them for you. How can you not see it from their perspective? Their dad met you while still married to their mom and living with all of them and within months, he left them and moved in with you (during a 6-month time period when kids couldn’t even go to school, somehow their dad managed to meet someone, fall in love, and blow up his family’s life; almost impressive). They deserve allll the time they need to process your existence and your role in the upheaval of their lives. If you need their acceptance of you in order to feel your boyfriend’s commitment to you, maybe you shouldn’t have moved in with him until you could get that. Same with the friends (especially if they are also friends with your boyfriend’s ex-wife, whom he left for you).