Reply To: How can I make a move?

I’m so confused here, and he’s going to be too. Like what do you actually want? It sounds like you want him to ask you out but then you’d sort of casually date and hook up by sneaking out of town so your ex and his daughter don’t know what’s going on. Ok, I guess, and then would you eventually take it mainstream and be in a legit relationship in public?

Why can’t you just tell him you’d like to get to know him better but this town is so small and gossipy, and would he ever like to get a drink sometime in the next town over? I get that you’re trying to drop a hint that would give you plausible deniability, and sure, you can try that first, but I just think it’s not going to be effective.