Reply To: Ignoring and insults

As others have said, he is abusing you. It’s really common for abusers to turn things around on you and claim that you are the one abusing them. Don’t fall for it.

You are not worthless and you have not failed him. These are things HE wants you to believe so that he can continue to have power over you. He makes you feel bad enough that you believe no one else will ever want you, and that even he is only keeping you around out of the goodness of his heart, and that any day he will cut you loose if you don’t do everything he wants.

Because he has undermined your sense of self worth so much (and it may not have been great to begin with — abusers prey on people who are in a bad place emotionally), it probably feels impossible to leave him. But believe me, you will be happier without him.

You don’t have to do this alone. What you are going through is HARD and you deserve to have professional support to help you. There are hotlines for both suicide prevention and domestic violence victims, and they will have the knowledge and resources to help you get through this successfully.