Reply To: Break up due to silly misunderstanding

I’ll be honest, the story here is super confusing and that makes it hard to give advice. Was she your girlfriend or not? What was she actually upset about? Did you do something to upset her or not?

In any case, two people who really care about each other do not mutually break up due to a silly misunderstanding. Your reaction to her calling you upset was “don’t interfere in my personal life.” Like, what?? You say she was your girlfriend. She IS your personal life. And then you were like, “oh ok, let’s end things. sure, let’s be friends.” Where is the silly misunderstanding here? It sounds like you really weren’t that bothered. Like, why have WEEKS gone by where you had ample opportunity to communicate to her how you feel about her and what you want, and you didn’t? You’re so passive, I don’t get it. Nowhere in this post even do you say what you want or how you feel about her. There’s zero clarity.

You need to get clear on what you even want with her. If you do want a relationship then you need to communicate with her like an adult and figure out if you two can get on the same page about what you both want. Do you want the same thing? If yes, discuss how that’s going to look. If no, go your separate ways. Don’t message her just to continue to be clear as mud. Have a real conversation.