Reply To: Ignoring and insults

You need to take care of yourself. There’s nothing you can do for him. It sounds like you two have created this unhealthy codependent ~thing~ between you that exists only in your minds, and you both need to get actual help, because whatever this is that you’ve created together isn’t helping either of you, and it’s actually hurting you both and stopping you from getting the help you need. Tell him that. Just say, we’re both messed up and just making it worse for each other. For my mental health and yours we need to stop this and seek medical help.

It really sounds like you should do the half year away thing. An inpatient program seems right for you the way you’re struggling. And it would break the cycle with this person.