Reply To: Dating seems hard these days

Completely agree with @Copa that if you’re finding women on dating apps to be “paranoid”, whatever that means, and judgemental, then the problem is your approach, not our gender as a whole.

Read the profiles of the women you’re interested in – don’t just skim them, really take the time to look them over. Find something that interests you, or something you have in common, and use that as a jumping off point to start a conversation. Avoid discussing their appearances. Women feel objectified enough already on a daily basis, they want to feel like a potential partner is attracted to them for more than the way they look. If you’ve messaged her, it’s already a given that you find her attractive.

The website Paging Dr. Nerdlove has a lot of insightful blog posts tailored to men about how to talk to and date women, you might want to check that out before heading back online.