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He absolutely was fucking around behind your back before he asked you for an open-for-him relationship. I agree with every single thing Kate and Wendy said.
Ron, some people are taught want to please those we love no matter what. Especially if we’re scared of those people leaving. Just because she agree to it doesn’t mean she likes it.
That’s why you’re having this disconnect. You know he wouldn’t have done that if he loved you. He wouldn’t want all these other women if he loved you. That’s why he could walk away and has said he will walk away. He will never love you the way you deserve.
I know you think this is who you want, but it is not. He sounds like a grade A douchebag. He’s lying to you everyday and he doesn’t even feel bad about it.
You really should get into therapy and figure out why you eagerly agreed to things you didn’t like to make him stay. That’s a really dangerous/vulnerable people pleasing aspect that people WILL take advantage of, and you will repeat until you figure out why you are drawn to that. Me, my dad abandoned me at 11. I had a lot of really shitty losers boyfriends.
Save yourself. Lose this loser and seriously, block his number. See a therapist or counselor. Stay away from him. He has no qualms using you despite knowing how deeply you feel for him. That’s how shitty he is.