Reply To: “It’s Been Almost Ten Years and He Still Hasn’t Proposed”

Also meant to add: Stop comparing yourself to younger people you see “having their happily ever after.” If there’s one thing I’ve learned over the years, it’s that there are plenty of people in lousy relationships that look “perfect” from the outside. One of my friends who is now divorced was married for four years. From a distance, things looked great. She had a handsome, educated, high-earning husband; they moved abroad together; they went on lavish vacations together. They were miserable — they fought constantly! they separated multiple times in four years! — but only the few of us she was confiding in knew how bad it was. Heck, I’m sure there are probably people who look at your long-term, live-in relationship and think you’re living your happily ever after.