Reply To: “It’s Been Almost Ten Years and He Still Hasn’t Proposed”

LW – I have been where you are. It was seven years, and we did, finally, get engaged. But then planning the wedding was hard — too hard. And, I knew that having kids would have been hard because every decision was a battle. The reality was that while there was much love there, something was wrong and deep down we both knew it. I was living his life, waiting for him to make any and all decisions and just hoping he would be excited about something in OUR life. I was in my early 30s at the time too. Four months before the wedding I called it off. He wouldn’t agree to send the Save the Dates — which were already late! It was one of the hardest, most rewarding things I have ever done. It will be incredibly painful, but you will rebuild.

It has been four and half years since then. I spent the first two years dating and focused on my career — it was SO MUCH FUN. Then I met the love of my life and within 6 months we moved in, a year engaged and then a year after that, we were married. I NEVER had to wait for him, I was always a “hell yes” to him, not a maybe AND I love him in a way that is unexplainable. Yes, there will be hard times, but the right person works with you, not against you. It will be hard, but on the other side is something so much better for you.