Reply To: is there any hope for us

It doesn’t sound like he’s into it anymore and that he’s sticking around only because he cares about you and doesn’t want to hurt you. And it also sounds like you are probably masking your feelings to seem less insecure or needy or whatever it is he had issues with (or what you think he had issues with) in order to make your relationship “work better.” You really can’t keep someone around by acting like you’re happier or more well-adjusted than you are. Eventually, all that pretending catches up with you.

You would probably benefit from some good old-fashioned growing up – focusing on yourself and what brings you meaning and purpose in life. Who are you outside this relationship? What are your interests and hobbies? What about friendships and other important relationships in your life? Investing in these things will give you a deeper sense of self, which will help alleviate insecurity and make you a more appealing partner going forward.

But, yeah, I don’t think this relationship is going to work right now. Maybe in the future after you’ve both had other experiences and a chance to grow and evolve….