Reply To: “He Hides His Friendship With Me From His Girlfriend”

Of course you don’t want to ruin a 30-year friendship, but you have to take into account the impact he’s having on you. It’s not right that he should expect you to hide your existence from his girlfriend or lie about spending time together.

Maybe it’s time to have a heart-to-heart with your friend and let him know how his actions are affecting your relationship. He may be at a loss as to how to handle the mounting pressure from his girlfriend. It’s also possible that things between him and his girlfriend aren’t as good as they could be.

You must decide for yourself what level of intimacy you are willing to accept in this friendship. If your friend treats you like a secret or an afterthought, you may need to establish some boundaries with them or, if necessary, end the friendship. Take care of yourself first and foremost in any relationship you have.