And I’m no psychologist, but I know we play out the relationships we saw in our childhood, or replay our trauma, right? You said your mom was an addict and your father left? Well, you got pregnant with an addict and then you left. You need to get help so you don’t keep repeating that pattern. Even if this woman is the person you’re supposed to be with, which she’s probably not, you would neee help to break the pattern.