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I think in this day and age if someone can’t give up smokes and alcohol during pregnancy, it’s pretty likely they’re addicted to something. Maybe she gave up, or claimed to give up, harder stuff during pregnancy but still needed something to take the edge off.

And the LW seems to link this behavior with the miscarriage, so in that sense you’re got a pattern playing out with mom harming baby via substance abuse and dad leaving. It would also make sense if he finds himself in relationships with addicts given his upbringing. Did he state in his letter she’s addicted to drugs or alcohol, no, but people don’t tell the whole story in their letters.