Reply To: How do I tell friend about the aro/ace spectrum?
June, considering your own issues – especially around figuring out your own identity and how and when to come out to people – you needn’t be worrying yourself with anyone else’s identity and their path to discovering who they are. It’s not your job to show them the possibilities and help them determine which label best fits them. It’s wonderful that young people have so much more freedom than older generations – like mine – did to figure out and express who they are, but sometimes I think that’s made them a little label-obsessed. It’s like you’re all in a rush to figure out which box you fit into. Your friend will figure out who she is and who and what and whether she’s attracted to others or not in time. You all are so young; you’ve got nothing but years and years to figure this stuff out and to evolve and develop as you mature. What a wonderful journey to be on! Just let it unfold on its own. No slideshows necessary.
