Reply To: Can’t forget my ex – even though I know we need to be apart

It’s understandable to feel conflicted and to still have strong emotions about your past relationship, even if you know deep down that it’s not a healthy or sustainable situation for you. It’s important to remember that you have the power to make choices that prioritize your own well-being and to set clear boundaries for yourself.

One thing that might be helpful is to remind yourself of the reasons why you chose to end things with your ex in the first place. You recognized that his behavior towards his ex was a major red flag, and it’s important to trust your instincts and your own standards for how you want to be treated in a relationship. It’s also worth noting that even if your ex is expressing remorse now, it doesn’t erase the harm that he caused in the past, and it doesn’t necessarily mean that he has truly changed his ways.

It might also be helpful to find ways to focus on your own personal growth and well-being. This could include engaging in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment, surrounding yourself with supportive friends and family members, or seeking out therapy or counseling to help process your emotions and develop coping strategies.

Finally, it’s important to remember that it’s okay to take your time and to set boundaries that work for you. If you feel like you need more space or if you’re not ready to engage with your ex at this time, that’s perfectly valid. You deserve to prioritize your own well-being and to make choices that feel right for you.