Reply To: Can’t forget my ex – even though I know we need to be apart

You ended things with him, so he immediately got back together with his ex (who it sounds like reached out to you to tell you he treated her poorly if I’m reading this correctly? Do you know her?) and continued to treat her with disrespect by vague booking about his relationship with you, texting you, and sliding into your DMs. Not to mention, it’s selfish to continue reaching out to someone who has asked for space and who you know is hurting because of you. Even if your initial decision to walk away felt premature, his true colors are showing now and they’re ugly.

It sounds like you’ve spent the last four months entertaining his texts, DMs, emails, etc. I think the first step is to stop. Block him everywhere. It’s so much easier to stop thinking about someone when they have no access to you and you don’t look at what they’re up to. It sounds like you’ve only recently started blocking and ignoring him, right? It gets easier. If time and plenty of distance don’t do it — or if the ruminating is disrupting your life in a major way — there’s no shame in therapy.