Reply To: Can’t forget my ex – even though I know we need to be apart

This entire thing is weird. The ex reached out, told you how horrible he was, you broke up with him and now she’s back together with him?!? All the while, he’s still trying to contact you? Does this dude have a magic penis? A billionaire? I dunno?

Back far, far away from this dumpster fire of a mess. There are easier relationships to be had.

I do get feeling sad. And as a people pleaser/peacemaker myself, I do get not wanting to hurt others feelings. I learned, far later in life than I should, that it’s not always my job to make others feel better (especially people who don’t deserve it). All I can do is my best and honor my own feelings/comfort level. I relapse. A lot.

You trusted your gut and acted on that. That’s better than most!! With some distance and time, it will get easier. Distance (as in no contact) is key.