I asked this to ChatGPT because it’s actually been giving fire advice, but in this case I don’t agree with it. It’s below, though, in case you’re interested.
My take on it: it’s never a good idea to date someone who’s not yet divorced. AND This guy is telling you nicely that he isn’t interested in dating you. Meanwhile I think you’re very eager to have a relationship, and this is a recipe for being unhappy. Personally I think you should peace out of this and tell him you’d love it if he got in touch once he’s divorced. Then you should meet other guys and get on with your life.
Here’s what the AI said:
It sounds like you’ve found someone you really connect with, and I can understand why you’re feeling a bit unsure about how to proceed. Given that he’s in the process of getting divorced, it’s understandable that he may not be ready for a serious relationship just yet, but that doesn’t mean you should give up hope completely.
If you’re interested in pursuing something more with him, my advice would be to take things slowly and let him set the pace. You’ve already made plans to work out together, which is a great opportunity to spend more time together and get to know each other better. Continue to engage in meaningful conversations and try to find common ground.
While you don’t want to come on too strong, it’s important to be honest about your feelings. Perhaps at some point during your conversations, you could let him know that you’re interested in exploring a romantic relationship, but that you’re willing to take things at his pace. This will give him the opportunity to share his thoughts and feelings with you and help you determine if he’s open to exploring something more.
Ultimately, the most important thing is to be true to yourself and your own needs. If you’re not interested in just hooking up and want something more meaningful, be clear about that. And remember, even if things don’t work out with this guy, there are plenty of other wonderful people out there who are looking for the same thing you are. Don’t give up hope, and keep putting yourself out there.