Reply To: Lack of Boundaries Between Boyfriend and His Soon-to-Be Ex

They sound like they are happily coparenting and that things are going well. I think you are out of bounds for expecting him to change the way his family works. They’re happy. The kids are happy. If anything, speak to him about what about this exactly that makes you unhappy.

Tell him you want her to know you’re dating etc. or that you want to be there having dinner with them, or meet his friends, or have his coworkers know your name. ALTHOUGH I’d also beg you to consider that in the grand scheme of things-2 months is not much time invested, so I am not surprised coworkers don’t know you’re name, or he hasn’t told his ex about you yet, maybe he’s still feeling you out? You’re also considering cutting your losses so soon, so can you see why he’s maybe not integrated you so much? You’re just getting to know each other.

In short, yes-I think two months is too soon to start dictating what his relationship with his not yet ex wife is like, or what they’re coparenting relationship should look like.