Reply To: Lack of Boundaries Between Boyfriend and His Soon-to-Be Ex

I agree with @Anonymousse. You haven’t even been dating for two months. So yes, I do think you’re the asshole to expect him to change family dynamics that seem to be working for them. At this point in the dating game, I think you should be walking away if it’s not working for you rather than demanding he set boundaries to accommodate your discomfort.

Also, are you sure they’re divorcing? I need more than one hand to count the number of friends and acqutaintances who have inadvertently ended up out on dates with men who were married but holding themselves out as single, divorced, or divorcing. One friend even dated a guy for ~four months before she found out he was still married. The guy said he was a widower when in fact his wife was alive and well and they still lived together.