Reply To: Lack of Boundaries Between Boyfriend and His Soon-to-Be Ex

Next Saturday will be two months and I am planning on ending it then considering he has made zero changes to make room for me in his life. His oldest is graduating this year. I think at 16 and 18, especially a high school graduate, the boys are old enough to facilitate a relationship with their mom on their own.

When my ex and I separated 12 years ago, sharing holidays and nightly family meals ceased even though our kids were 3, 5, and 7. He and I get along extremely well. When people see us at parent teacher conferences and the kids’ activities, they don’t realize we’re even divorced, but I don’t go to his parents’ for Christmas and I don’t text him on Saturday morning to see what the plan for the day is. Our lives are separate except for the kids. It just seems like if she wanted a divorce then after two and half years she wouldn’t want to be there every day still.