Reply To: Lack of Boundaries Between Boyfriend and His Soon-to-Be Ex

I agree that it’s odd that two people are actively getting divorced and also spending this much time together. It makes me think maybe they aren’t getting a divorce and maybe they actually live together. Could he be lying to you? How much time do you spend at his place?

“Even if you don’t think two months is a long time, wouldn’t you have maybe cooked a meal for the person you’re dating by that point instead of making plans for after the dinner you share with your wife and kids?”

Absolutely, yes. Even if he’s not lying and you’re not the side chick, yes, you’re correct that most people in a new relationship would be regularly having dinner together. So the fact that he’s not making time to cook meals with you, ever, is probably a sign he’s not that invested in the relationship.

This sounds like something to walk away from and be like, give me a call when you’re divorced and ready to date.