Reply To: Lack of Boundaries Between Boyfriend and His Soon-to-Be Ex
Yes, I do think it’s weird and I don’t think this is something they’re doing for the kids. That’s why I asked in my first response if you’re sure he’s divorcing. My parents are an example of a couple that are divorced and living together and while it’s unhealthy, their relationship is not romantic. One of my cousins is married to a woman who was previously married to someone else. The first time she and her now-ex filed for divorce, they ended up not going through with the divorce because they wanted to see if they could work through their issues. They couldn’t, and a year or so later, filed for divorce again. I once dated a divorcing guy and while I know he and his wife were done and living separately, it still turned into a clusterfuck. And like I said in my first comment, it’s not unheard of at all for married men to say they’re divorcing or divorced when they’re very much not. All this to say, I think people are messy out there. It’s okay if this arrangement doesn’t work for you. It wouldn’t work for many, I’m sure, and better to get out early before you sink more time into this.
ETA: My immediate thought when I read about their arrangement was Gwenyth Paltrow and Chris Martin’s conscious uncoupling. I remember reading an article when that was going on about how they did holidays together for their kids and continued doing so with their new partners.
