Reply To: Lack of Boundaries Between Boyfriend and His Soon-to-Be Ex

He makes sure “the coast is clear” before “smuggling” you into his apartment?

Yes, this is ridiculous at his age. I’m surprised you’ve gone along with this arrangement for so long. I honestly thought you were a lot younger and inexperienced and that’s why you’d hung around for two months. If it’s not a good fit right in the beginning, you should probably assume things won’t change. He can blame it all on his wife and not wanting to rock the boat, but that’s his choice, too. She could be saying the same hung to her friends. All you know is what he tells you, and that might not be the truth.