Reply To: Am I being a spoiled bride?

That you are already married was the first thing that struck me when I read this. I think pushing the subterfuge of this being THE wedding and expecting/pushing people to act accordingly is causing you stress. I also think it may annoy and upset some guests and cause rifts.
I like Ron’s idea. Tell everyone you are secret spouses and invite them to a big casual gathering,activity or party…with no expectations of ritual or gifts etc. Just for the fun of it you could wear your wedding gown/outfit to the bowling or movies…