The added explanation helps a little. I still don’t understand why you would be so bent out of shape because your bridal party isn’t thrilled to plan a bachelorette event for womeone who is actually married and not a bachelorette. Where I think you are being unrealistic is in holding the expectation that you can have the same experiences now that you would have had if this were your actual wedding. It isn’t and you can’t. I think you need to be a bit more adaptable.