Reply To: Prolonging the inevitable

You are not toxic. There’s a probability that you are working through something and because of that, you are unconsciously attracted to/choosing guys who aren’t right for you. No nine year old should be in a house with a verbally abusive, porn addicted grown man, I hope it’s not as bad as I’m imagining. 2/3 of your relationship with him, as you wrote it, has been bad with this issue. Why do you do this to yourself and your daughter? You’re deeply unhappy but choose his partnership over being on your own.

Being alone, getting strong and healing alone (I’d try some therapy) will be much much better than prolonging this horrible situation in front of your daughter. Teach her that her peace is more important than a companion. Be a good role model and get out of that relationship and look into therapy if you feel that there’s something you’re doing to get into these dead end relationships.