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May 9, 2023 at 7:56 am #1120045

I’m assuming that you meant that things have been rocky with your boyfriend since June 2022 and not June 2021, since the latter would mean that your entire relationship has been rocky versus “just” 2/3 of it. Regardless, you know you need to leave this dude, and if you can’t do it for yourself, do it for your daughter. I get that you’re afraid of being alone, but it’s ok to be afraid of something. Do it anyway. Be alone for a while. You are not able to have a functional happy romantic relationship right now so stop trying. I promise, there is life outside dysfunctional relationships. Feel the fear and do it anyway! Be brave! Make a commitment to yourself and your daughter that you will refrain from dating anyone for AT LEAST a whole year, and in that time focus on the two of you. Consider therapy to work through whatever issues are preventing you from seeking/attracting men with whom you can develop a mutually respectful relationship. Invest in friendships, your health, your community, and, of course, your daughter. In time, you will see how full and enriching and lovely life can be when you aren’t so distracted by messed men and dysfunctional relationships.