Reply To: Prolonging the inevitable

Which role model do you think is better for your child:

Woman who stays in unfulfilling relationship because being alone is scary

Woman who figures out how to lead a fulfilling life without always being in a relationship.

I don’t know if you’re toxic, but you’re picking partners who don’t respect your boundaries. If I had to pick a reason from thin air (which I am totally doing), you want to be in a relationship more than you want to be in the right relationship for you. Do you get invested quickly? Fall head over heels? Ignore red flags? All because you want to be wanted?

Slow down. Take some time to reset. Join a book club or an indoor mom-volleyball club. Do something to meet new people and focus on the activities that you like. Share some with your kid. Be a brownie troop leader. Stop living as if being partnered up is the only way to live.