Reply To: Am I being too pushy on dates? I could use some advice.

Yeah, what Wendy said. I personally would err on the side of not asking someone back to your place at all on the first date. The first date should just be a quick drink or two to make sure there’s some attraction and interest in spending more time together. Going back to a guy’s place the first night you meet feels chaotic and unsafe to me, and probably a lot of other women. And it sets a tone that this is a hookup, which I think is in conflict with what you actually want. So just probably don’t do that. Have a nice time, get out of there, then send a text saying you had a nice time and ask her on a second date. If there are fireworks on the 2nd date you can ask her to come in at the end of the night. Once. Twice IS pushy.