Reply To: Am I being too pushy on dates? I could use some advice.

I agree with the above about being consistent with what you say you want and your actions. If you’re looking for a real relationship, you shouldn’t be trying to get everyone back to your place on the first date. That tells women you really just want a hookup, or at least you just want a hookup from her. Most women will assume/think that unless you’re somehow different than every other single man looking to “settle down” but not actually walking that walk.

As Copa said, the drinks part of it is what makes the territory especially hazy. That’s troubling. Two different bars means at least a few drinks, right? I can see someone feeling regretting what they did, in the sober light of day, and I can that see especially if she was not sober. You really have to be careful that everyone is in control of their faculties when you’re talking about consent.