Reply To: Mom is a slob.

I agree that you sound more in contempt of her behavior, living space and person right now than that you’re coming from a place of real care or concern about her. I’m sorry, I’m sure you do care about her but you should do as others have suggested and get some therapy or counseling for what you’ve been through to even begin to clear up some of the parental issues.

A therapist can help you pick apart your feelings and can maybe help you begin to heal your relationship with her, or at least yourself. Therapy has helped me accept the actual circumstances/people I’ve been dealt in life (as far as family, parents) and manage my own expectations and relationships with them from there.

She isn’t your responsibility and you don’t have to save her. Take care.