Reply To: Am I being too pushy on dates? I could use some advice.

You keep saying you’re dating in NYC and it’s different there. That’s how you’re acting like we don’t understand and we’re idiots. A chorus of women are telling you it’s your behavior, which you also knew, which is why you wrote in. Just because I say it expecting a mid-thirties dude to understand this- I expect much more from men your age. Is that really so bad? You’re a grownass man. Act like it. You act like you know more than us and are doing it right, and wrote in for advice and if someone doesn’t say it nicely enough, you’re out? Boo hoo.

LOL, why are men so sensitive?

Is it so hard to understand that women want a connection over more than many hours and many more drinks? before you tell them how badly implicitly or subtly (trust me, it’s not subtle) that you want to fuck them before you get to know them? They don’t want to feel like a nameless blob of female flesh you found on tinder to sleep with for the evening. That’s how a lot of women feel out there in dating land.

I’m not going to apologize for not sweetening up my language to make you feel better. You should know better than taking drunk women you barely know home to screw at your age. You’re on a slippery slope. You could get someone who has an especially low tolerance or is on medication and have some real problems on your hands. Stop taking women home on the first date, just my advice.