Reply To: Am I being too pushy on dates? I could use some advice.

I mean… your date told you herself that she didn’t think you should’ve asked a second time. Her opinion should carry the most weight here, but okay, you came here and the consensus was that yes, many women would perceive what you did as pushy for a first online date and perhaps you should reconsider inviting them back to your place at all if you’re looking for a LTR. It’s generally considered a red flag if a man brings up/pushes for sex very quickly as far as online dating is concerned.

I’m the one who brought up alcohol because it sounded like a marathon date revolving around drinks. If she had enough to drink, decision-making and consent become a slippery slope. My worst decisions in life have almost surely all been drunk ones.

You don’t even seem sorry that you made this woman uncomfortable. You only seem sorry that she doesn’t want to see you again.