Reply To: Am I being too pushy on dates? I could use some advice.

I’m sensitive about it because of Anonymousse’s tone. I think that’s just a bit harsh of a tone. I don’t think I’m some lecherous predator and I came here geniunely confused and seeking advice. I am taking Wendy’s … which is that hookups and the culture can be confusing and it’s best to err on the side of caution. That makes sense to me even though… I honestly feel like there’s nothing wrong with getting drinks (she had 3, I have 5) and deciding to hookup together. But it can be confusing and so be prepared.

Yeah if you read Anonymousse’s tone and implication… yeah that’s why I’m annoyed. I think that person is really convinced that there’s something inherently at odds with hooking up and having a relationship (all of mine started with a first-date hookup more or less) and that the date was borderline. I think that doesn’t capture how confusing dates are and… and I think you’re going to disagree… that I did anything wrong. Dates and hookups are confusing and not-great ones can happen and misreads can happen… and it’s not always the initiator’s fault. I really just don’t think I did anything wrong per se… and that’s sort of what Anonymousse is implying.