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Jeff
May 10, 2023 at 10:06 am #1120109

I legitimately came here confused and looking for advice… I got it at first and accepted it and felt good about it.

I have an issue with Anonymousse’s tone and implication that “I should know better”. If the forum treats people who are confused and looking for advice as morally or ethically deficient… then yes I am going to be sensitive about it. That’s not what i think should happen.

Frankly, I don’t think some of you are accepting that first date hookups can happen.

The two arguments I see here are
1. “Hey you did nothing wrong, but hookups can be confusing on af irst date so best to avoid it OR ask for it once only and be careful and don’t be surprised if it doesn’t go well” and
2. “Hey you’re morally bad and you should know better and you got this girl too drunk to consent”. I just don’t think the latter is true so I’m rejecting it. I accept the first one