Reply To: Am I being too pushy on dates? I could use some advice.

I don’t think alcohol was a factor here, though I know I’m the one who initially raised it as a potential issue. I’m petite and a lightweight, and three drinks over an eight hour day would not leave me impaired.

For a first date, go out, get to know one another a little bit, go home. You can say things like, “I had a great time,” to show your continued interest. Then follow up, ask her on another date. If the interest is mutual, you’d likely be going out again within a few days.

And yes, I had the same thought as @bloodymediocrity about why she changed her mind but didn’t say so outright because believe it or not I do not try to be mean on this site.