Reply To: Am I being too pushy on dates? I could use some advice.

You say, are you 100% percent into this right now on the second or third or fourth date, not fully drunk after hours at bars. You let her take the lead. You don’t have sex on the first date, not because it will never lead to anything more, but that every woman on a first date gets asked home…and it gets old. Really old. And depending on that women’s particular life experiences, the drinks rolling in and you keep asking and asking and touching her, she is going to feel pressured and coerced even if she’s saying yes. You need to learn about women. Women are socialized to say yes. Women are taught to people please and not disappoint and to me, it seems like you’re heavily taking advantage of that.

You not getting it. But not because I don’t think you get it, it’s just that you do like having sex on the first date and you don’t want to stop trying for that. You like it too much.

You can’t have a real relationship and endless one night stands. Take your pick. You’re making your own choices.