Reply To: Am I being too pushy on dates? I could use some advice.

Jeff, it’s icky. You push her to come home (we’ve established she felt pushed). You then put a burden on her by asking what she wants. And you can’t perform because you’re nervous, because it’s a first date. It’s just… that’s bad. Don’t make her tell you what she likes, especially if you can’t deliver. Just take it slow, do stuff, ask her is this ok, take her cues.