Reply To: Am I being too pushy on dates? I could use some advice.

If you had led with, “I took this woman on a date to multiple bars, we drank for nine hours, three drinks for her, five for me. I pushed her to come home with me, but then I couldn’t perform and she left. She didn’t want a second date, why?”

We would have told you right away what the answer was. You left out the most important part. Hookup man cannot hook it up. That’s why. She didn’t want to come home with you, you didn’t read the body language or whatever and couldn’t perform. Her boundaries were pushed and it’s your whisky issue.

I would have told you not to drink so much and keep it shorter. Second date, go for a meal and left her invite you in or not.